praise and acknowledgement

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN PRAISE & POSITIVE ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

The inverse power of praise – is a neurobiological fact.

*By calling your child smart it does not prevent underperforming – it may actually be causing it. Columbia University

*An extrinsic reward system releases neurotransmitters, which can inhibit creativity, problem-solving and recall.

*Praise, rewards, gold stickers and A’s often impair intrinsic motivation. Alfie Kohn

 PRAISEPOSITIVE ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Webster’s Definition:(1) to express a favorable judgment of
(2) to glorify, especially by attribution of perfection
(3) an expression of approval
(1) to inspire with courage
(2) to spur on, stimulate
Addresses:The doer:
"You’re such a good girl."
"Good boy."
The deed:
"I appreciate your cooperation."
"Good effort. (expand, be specific)"
RecognizesOnly the complete, perfect product:
"You did it right."
Effort (a controllable variable)
"It looks like you worked hard."
GoalConformity:
"You did it right."
Goal oriented
Understanding, empathy:
What do you think, feel, or learn?”
Process oriented
FeedbackVague/Nondescriptive
"Wow!"
"Good job"
"Nice work."

Mastery based
"You worked hard and you got it"
"You practiced and practiced and you
figured it out"
OrientationNegative/Pessimistic/Depressive
can’t,
don’t forget
try
Positive/Optimstic
"Do your best"
"Remember"
"Do"
AttitudePatronize, manipulate:
"I like the way that Susie is sitting."
"You should be sitting quietly"
Appreciative, respectful:
"Who can show me how to sit to show that you are ready?"
DegreeExaggerated
Indulges as Special
excessive focus on self and being the best
Genuine
Assists in seeing true self accurately
“I” MessageJudging/Feeling
"You should be sitting quietly."
"I like the way you did that."
Others are responsible for how you feel
"I feel sad you call me names."
Self-disclosing "I" messages:
"I appreciate your help"
Action "will/wont I" messages
I will listen when you speak calmly
I wont play unlessyou stop namecalling
InvitesPerson to change for others.Person to change for self.
Locus of ControlExternal, dependent, praise junkie:
takes out of the moment
“What do you think?”
“All A’s, I’m giving you a reward.”
Internal, self-evaluator:
deepens involvement in work
"What do I think?"
"That reflects your hard work."
TeachesWhat to think.How to think.
Effect on Self-EsteemFeel worthwhile:
Only when others approve.
Feel worthwhile:
From within
Long Range Effect Needs approval, “watch me” insecure, less task
persistence, less willing to take risks, less
initiative or willingness to share ideas, more
tentative in responses, defeatism, deadened
enthusiasm, boast and brag to get attention,
overinflated sense of abilities, aloofness,
when expectations ultimately fall short ,
tasks turned into something to please you or
win your approval
Self-confidence, self-reliance.
able to enter neurological flow,
strong self esteem, resiliency,
responsibility, independence,
cause and effect thinking
problem solving skills,
self determination,
sense of control over own
life
OwnershipRobs person of ownership and pleasure of own achievement:
"You did it just like I told you."
"I am so proud of you."
Recognizes ownership/responsible
for own achievement or points out
reason to feel proud:
"That wasn’t easy."
"You figured it out for
yourself"

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