Bibliotherapy is the use of literature to help solve children’s challenges. The reading of children’s stories together can be a helpful, healing way for children to learn about, cope with, and develop mastery over their challenges. These books were selected for many reasons including to teach children to identify and express feelings and emotions, to encourage learning, understanding and open communication about an issue and to help adults discover, address and process for themselves and for their child.
It is important to preview a book before reading it to your child. Technically, it does not have to be accurate (ie: you adopted internationally and the book is about a domestic adoption) but it is important to make sure it is right for you, your child and your circumstances. Also, you can change words to make it more specific to your young child and you can skip over pages so not to teach a behavior or concern that he or she has not yet thought about or engaged in. The books are listed in no particular order and can be found with further description and review at Amazon
Attention/Hyperactivity/Spirited
- Sometimes I Drive My Mom Crazy But I Know She’s Crazy About Me: A Self-Esteem Book for ADHD Children by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.
- Attention Girls: A Guide to Learn All About Your ADHD by Patricia Quinn.
- The Putting on the Brakes Activity Book for Young People with ADHD by Patricia Quinn, M.D. and Judith Stern, M.A. Recommended for youths ages 8-13.
- The Self-Control Patrol Workbook by Terry Trower.
- Getting a Grip on ADD: Kid’s Guide by Frank and Smith.
- How I Learned to Think Things Through by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.
- A Workbook to Help Children Think Before They Act by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.
- Jumping Johnny Gets Back to Work: Child’s Guide to ADHD by Michael Gordon.
- Jumping Jake Settles Down: A Workbook to Help Impulsive Children Learn to Think Before They Act by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.
- Eagle Eyes: A Child’s Guide to Paying Attention by Jeanne Gehret and Michael LaDuca
- Cory Stories: A Kid’s Book About Living with ADHD by Jeanne Kraus and Whitney Martin.
- Learning to Slow Down and Pay Attention by Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D. and Ellen Dixon, Ph.D.
- On My Way to Bed and On My Way to School by Sarah Maizes. Stories about procrastination for parents who want to foster creativity in their family’s everyday routines.
- Shelly the Hyperactive Turtle by D. Moss.
- Listen Buddy by Helen Lester. A funny story about what happens when a bunny does not listen.
- Eukee the Jumpy Elephant by Corman and Trevino.
- Slam Dunk: A Young Boy’s Struggle with ADD by Parker and Parker. This book is recommended for ages 8-12.
- Pay Attention, Slosh! by Mark Smith. This book is recommended for ages 8-10.
- Pay Attention Emily Brown by Linda Burton for ages 4-8.
- My Brother’s a World Class Pain: Sibling’s Guide to ADHD by Michael Gordon, Ph.D.
- Nobody Listens to Andrew by Elizabeth Guilfoile.
- Understanding My ADHD by Kara Tamanini. A primer alerting to ADHD traits while offering hope.
- The Basic Connection by Mary Micallef.
- Dealing with Someone Who Won’t Listen by Lisa Adams. Advice on what to do and what to do if someone does not listen ages 5-10.
Adoption/Attachment Concerns
- The Dog Who Had Kittens by Polly Robertus. Useful for exploring abandonment and attachment issues.
- Over the Moon: An Adoption Tale by Karen Katz and based on her experience adopting internationally. For the young child.
- Zachary’s New Home: A Story for Foster and Adopted Children by G. Bloomquist. A story for children ages 3-8.
- Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis. Domestic adoption. Ages 4 and up.
- The Day We Met You by Phoebe Koehler. Ages 2-5.
- Adoption is for Always and We Adopted You, Benjamin Boo by Linda Girard. Ages 6-11.
- A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza.
- The Red Thread: An Adoption Fairy Tale by Grace Lin. A story based on a Chinese belief that an invisible, unbreakable red thread connect all those who are destined to be together.
- Adopted Like Me by Jeffrey LaCure. Ages 5-9.
- Happy Adoption Day! Story and song by John McCutcheon and Julie Paschkis
- How I Was Adopted by Joanna Cole. A story about love and how a girl was adopted, that ends with the invitation to share the readers story of how they were adopted. Ages 5 ““ 8 (has some reproduction info)
- A Blessing From Above by Patti Henderson and Elizabeth Edge. For toddlers. A kangaroo praying for a baby to love.
- Why Was I Adopted? By Carole Livingston.
- A Koala for Katie by Jonathon London. Ages 3-6.
- Did My First Mother Love Me? by Kathryn Miller. Ages 4-7.
- Families Are Different by Nina Pellegrini.
- Real Sisters by Susan Wright. Ages 4-8
- I Wished for You: An Adoption Story by Marianne Richmond. A little bear cuddles with his Mama and asks her questions that many adopted children have and Mama lovingly answers them all.
Anger Management
- Hip Hop and His Famous Face by Gary Oliver with H. Norman Wright. A funny story to help children recognize signs that they are getting angry.
- How to Take the Grrr Out of Anger by Elizabeth Verdick and Majorie Lisovskis. Strategies to manage anger.
- Don’t Rant and Rave on Wednesday by Adolph Moser, Ed.D. A children’s anger control book, ages 8-12.
- Tiger and the Temper Tantrum by Vivian French. Tiger learns there are more acceptable ways to get your needs met for ages 4-8.
- Cool Down and Work Through Anger (Learning to Get Along) by Cheri Meiners. Recognize, express and learn to cope.
- Anh’s Anger by Gail Silver. A five year old learns to “Sit with his anger.”
- The Chocolate-Covered-Cookie Tantrum by Deborah Blumenthal. Sophie sees a girl eating a chocolate-covered-cookie, and when her mother does not have one to give her, she throws a tantrum. Ages 3-5.
- Tristan’s Temper Tantrum by Caroline Form. The story of Tristan the volcano who awakens from a thousand-year slumber and finds that nobody wants to play with a bad-tempered volcano. Ages 4-8.
- When Sophie Gets Angry-Really, Really Angry. A little girl who has trouble managing her anger learns how to take time to cool off and regain her composure for ages 3-7.
- Angry Octopus: An Anger Management Story Introducing Active Progressive Muscular Relaxation and Deep Breathing by Lori Lite
- Everything I Do You Blame on Me! by Allyson Aborn, M.S.W. A book to help children control their anger.
- The ‘Dealing with Feelings’ Series by Elizabeth Crary. Offering options for elementary age to help them diffuse without denying or feeling shame about a strong feeling: I’m Furious, I’m Frustrated, I’m Scared and I’m Mad.
- How I Learned to Control My Temper and How I Learned to Think Things Through by Debbie Pincus.
- When Mom Turned Into a Monster by Joanna Harrison. As the day progresses and the children do not listen to their mother she starts to grow monster features. A much loved Creative Therapies favorite in this category.
- I Lost My Bear by Jules Feiffer. A story about a child’s behavior when her best toy disappears.
- I Just Don’t Like the Sound of No! My Story About Accepting No for an Answer an Disagreeing the Right Way! by Julia Cook
- The Angry Monster Workbook by Hennie Shore. There is also a useful game by the same title, The Angry Monster.
- From Mad to Worse by Jim Boulden. A book recommended for grades K-3.
- Sometimes I Like to Fight But I Don’t Do It Much Anymore by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D. A self-esteem book for children who are having difficulty controlling their anger.
- Andrew’s Angry Words by Dorthea Lachner. Andrew’s words to his sister spread from person to person creating trouble wherever they go.
- Mean Soup by Betsy Everitt. Mom has just the recipe for her son who comes home from school feeling mean.
- When I Feel Angry (The Way I feel Books: Taking Care of Our Emotions) by Spelman and Cote, Ages 3-5.
- The Penguin Who Lost Her Cool by Marla Sobel. A story about controlling your anger.
- The Words Hurt by Chris Loftis. A story for young children explaining how words can be hurtful and abusive and what children can do about it.
- A Family that Fights by Sharon Bernstein. Offers words for children and parents to discuss domestic violence.
- Something is Wrong in My House by D. Davis. A book about parents fighting, ways to cope and how to break the cycle for youths ages 8-12.
- When Mommy Was Mad by Lynne Jonell and Petra Mathers. A light hearted book about when Mommy was mad at Daddy and how it affected their child and what he did about it.
- When I Feel Angry by Corneila Maude Spelman. A gentle book that puts a bunny in a variety of situations that provoke anger. Instead of acting out, the bunny and her friends find constructive ways to deal with the anger. Ages 4 to 8.
- Hot Stuff to Help Kids Chill Out: The Anger Management Book by Jerry Wilde. A book that speaks directly to children and adolescents and provides clear guidelines to help them handle hot tempers more constructively.
- Anger Management Workbook for Kids and Teens by Anita Bohensky. Teaches effective coping behaviors to help stop the escalation of anger and to resolve conflicts.
- Mad Isn’t Bad: A Child’s Book about Anger (Elf-Help Books for Kids) by Emily Menendez-Aponte.
- What to Do Guides for Kids: What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger and What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Negativity by Dawn Hueber.
Being Bullied Also See Self-Esteem Building
- Facing the Double Edged Sword by Terrence Webster Doyle. This book offers nonviolent solutions to conflict.
- Keys to Dealing with Bullies by Ed McNamara.
- Secret of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
- The Juice Box Bully: Empowering Kids to Stand Up for Others by Bob Sornson
- Tease Monster: A Book About Teasing vs. Bullying and Bully B.E.A.N.S a book for bystanders.by Julia Cook
- Bullies are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Roman.
- Why Is Everyone Always Picking On Me: A Guide to Understanding Bullies for Young People by Terrence Webster Doyle. Provides bully-proofing ideas for ages 9-12.
- The Berenstain Bears and Too Much Teasing by Stan and Jan Berenstain. There is a collection of books written by the Berenstains on valuable topics including The sitter, Visit the Dentist, The Messy Room, No Girls Allowed, The Bad Habit, The Slumber Party, Too Much Pressure and many more relevant, useful topics hardly addressed elsewhere.
- Cool, Calm and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills by Lisa Schab because self-assured, assertive kids are less likely to pick on or bully others.
- Cliques, Phonies and Other Baloney by Trevor Romain. A book about cliques and friendship.
- The Mouse, the Monster and Me! by Pat Palmer. Assertiveness concepts for ages 8-12.
- We Can Work it Out: Conflict Resolution for Children by Barbara Kay Pollard. A straightforward format to help children learn skills to handle fourteen difficult situations, such as anger, teasing, hitting, and excluding, for ages 5-8.
- The Meanest Thing to Say: Little Bill Books for Beginning Readers. A book to help children learn a lesson of a prosocial way to combat meanness and name-calling for ages 4-9.
- Simon’s Hook: A Story About Teases and Put-Downs by Karen Gedig Burnett. A picture book that helps children learn strategies for handling putdowns for ages 6-10.
- Telling Isn’t Tattling by Kathryn Hammerseng. Many children have trouble knowing the difference between telling and tattling. This book for ages 4-7 helps them learn when to tell an adult.
- Loudmouth George and the Sixth Grade Bully by Nancy Carlson. Loudmouth George has his lunch repeatedly stolen by a large bully. He and his friend teach the bully a lesson he’ll never forget for ages 4-7.
- Stick Boy by Joan Zeier. Skinny Eric grows seven inches during the sixth grade and becomes the victim of a class harasser for ages 10-12.
Divorce: My Parents Are Divorcing/Separated/Divorced
- When Your Parents Get a Divorce: A Kids Journal by Ann Banks.
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst. Age 3 and up. We are connected by love.
- My Parents are Divorced, Too: Book for Kids by Kids by Blackstone-Ford.
- The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn. For ages 5 and up experiencing temporary separation.
- The Un-Wedding by Cole A silly story about why divorce can be a good thing for parents and children.
- This is Me and My Two Families: An Awareness Scrapbook/Journal for Children Living in Step-Families by Evans.
- Changing Families: An Interactive Guide for Kids and Grown-Ups by Fassler, Lash and Ives.
- The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce: For Children and Their Divorced Parents by Richard Gardner.
- Living With Divorce: Journal Activities for Personal Growth by Garigan and Urbanski. A book for grades 5-9.
- Will Dad Ever Move Back Home? by Hogan. A book for ages 5-8.
- How to Survive Your Parents’ Divorce: Kids’ Advice to Kids by Kimball.
- How it Feels When Parents Divorce by Krementz. Written by children ages 7-16 with highly diverse backgrounds.
- Mom and Dad Break-Up by Prestine. This book is recommended for children in pre-school-second grade.
- Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore by Stinson. This book is recommended for children ages 4-8.
- Divorced But Still My Parents: A Helping-Book About Divorce for Children and Parents. A book that contains workbook activities for ages 6-12.
- The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce by Richard A. Gardner, M.D. A book for children and their parents.
- The Divorce Workbook: An Interactive Guide for Kids and Families by Sally Blakeslee, Ph.D., David Fassler, M.D.
- The Children’s Book”¦for the sake of the children by Erickson. A crucial book helps parents organize custodial responsibilities. The book travels in the child’s backpack, between houses and school. It contains important personal and medical information and can be used for communication between parents and teachers.
- What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced: A Book to Read With Children Going Through the Trauma of Divorce by Colemans. This book is recommended for ages 6-12.
- My Life Turned Upside Down, But I Turned It Right Side Up by Mary Blitzerfield and Hennie Shore. A story about a girl who lives in two places. On every page we learn about a problem and when we turn the book upside down it tells how she solved it.
- All About Divorce. by Mary Blitzerfield. The book comes with a doll family and back drop scenes to allow children to play out their concerns.
- Do I Have a Daddy? by Lindsay. This book is recommended for ages 3-6. Contains a special section for single parents including the never married parent and the totally absent father.
- Through the Eyes of Children: Healing Stories for Children of Divorce by Johnston and Breunig. 15 metaphoric stories to help children, ages 5-8, understand and cope with their parents’ separation emotionally and physically.
- Help!: A Girl’s Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies from the American Girl Library. There are a series of these books on different topics. All of them are good.
- Divorced But Still My Parents by Shirley Thomas, Ph.D. and Dorothy Rankin. A helping book about divorce for children and parents with workbook activities for ages 6-12.
- Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Any More by Kathy Stinson. A feelings book for children ages 4-8 to read and discuss with a parent.
Fears/Scared/Nervous/Worried
- The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn. For children entering school, going to camp or facing temporary separation from loved ones.
- I Don’t Know Why”¦I Guess I’m Shy: A Story About Taming Imaginary Fears by Barbara Cain. Shows children that shyness doesn’t have to get in the way of having fun and making friends for ages 5-8.
- Harry and the Terrible Whatzit by Dick Gackenbach. How courage shrinks fears.
- Don’t Pop Your Cork on Mondays: The Children’s Anti-Stress Book by Adolph Moser. An informative handbook that explores the causes and effects of stress and offers practical management approaches. Ages 7 to 12.
- Go Away Big Green Monster by Ed Emberley. An experience of control over fears through turning the pages.
- Go Away Bad Dreams by Susan Hill. A child uses imagination to chase away nightmares.
- It’s Time for School Stinky Face by Lisa McCourt. Mom reassures an imaginative boy with creative responses to his questions about going to school.
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst. A story about an invisible string that reaches from heart to heart,so that we are never really alone. A favorite at Creative Therapies. Children who find value in this book (as is true with many bibliotherapy books) often ask to have it read to them over and over.
- I Won’t be Afraid by Joan Hanson. A child believes that at age six there will be no more fears.
- The Crocodile and the Dentist by Taro Gomi. Helpful to children who fear the dentist.
- Feeling Afraid by Joy Berry.
- What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Hueber
- There’s a Nightmare in My Closet by Mercer Mayer. A child confronts a monster.
- Franklin in the Dark by Bourgeois and Clark. A book for children ages 4-8.
- Courage by Bernard Waber. Even children who are scared of many things can see they still have courage. This story is about the many kinds of courage.
- Close Your Eyes by Kate Banks. A mother reassures her tiger cub that by closing his eyes he can enter a whole new world of dreams and magical places. And when he awakens, she will be right there, waiting for him.
- Ira Sleeps Over by Bernard Waber. A child decides whether to bring his bedtime bear to a sleep over at a friend’s house.
- Charlie the Cavalier Begs for Attention by Lisa Rusczyk Video-chat/Skype help. The book and puppet helps explain to young children that a person is away, loves them and will be back soon.
Feelings/Emotions
- The ‘Let’s Talk About Feelings’ Series by Joy Berry. Titles include: Feeling Angry, Feeling Sad, Being Helpful, Saying No, Needing Attention, Feeling Afraid, Feeling Frustrated, Feeling Jealous, Being Good, Feeling Disappointed, Being Patient and Playing with Others. Ages 3-9. Each book focused on an emotion, using simple language and funny pictures to explore ways to cope.
- The ‘Let’s Talk About It’ Series by Joy Berry. Let’s Talk About Being Helpful, Let’s Talk About Being Afraid, Let’s Talk About Being Angry, Let’s Talk About Being Sad, Let’s Talk About Needing Attention, and Let’s Talk About Saying No. Pre-school through grade 2.
- The ‘Let’s Talk About’ Library. Titles include Let’s Talk About Having Asthma, Let’s Talk About Having Head Lice, Let’s Talk About When Your Mom or Dad is Unhappy.
- The Way I feel Books: Taking Care of Our Emotions (Series) by Spelman and Cote, When I Feel Angry, When I feel Sad, When I feel Scared, When I feel Jealous, When I feel Good About Myself, When I Miss You, When I Care About Others. Explores causes and what to do using anthropomorphic narrators.. Ages 3-6.
- The Franklin Series by Scholastic, Inc. Titles include Franklin is Bossy, Franklin’s Blanket, Franklin Goes to School,
Franklin’s Messy, and Franklin in the Dark. - All Feelings are OK. It’s What You Do With Them That Counts by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D. A play and read book.
- Fortunately by Remy Charlip. A model for ages 5-8 for turning “unfortunates” into “fortunates.”
- My Feelings, My Self by Lynda Madaras. Explores thoughts and feelings about yourself, parents, and friends.
- Sometimes I Feel Like a Mouse by Jeanne Modesitt. Animals and feelings.
- Glad Monster, Sad Monster by Anne Miranda and Ed Emberly.
- School Smarts: All the Right Answers to Homework, Teachers, Popularity, and More from the American Girl Library. From pop quizzes to popularity, this book is packed with smart ideas for school. Get tips on great presentations, sharpen your test-taking skills, discover your study style and more.
- The Feelings Book: The Care and Keeping of Your Emotions from the American Girl Library. Tips, how to’s and straightforward advice for girls ages 8 and up.
- The Hurt by Teddi Doleski. What happens when a child goes to his room and nurses his Hurt, and what helped.
- Today I Feel Silly and Other Moods That Make My Day by Jamie Lee Curtis. With illustrations of faces and feelings and a wheel that can be turned to reveal how you feel.
- Feelings by Aliki. Detailed, one page expressions of a variety of feelings, for the older child.
Grief and Loss
- Cat Heaven and Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant.
- I’ll Always Love You by Hans Wilhelm. A boy and his dog.
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst. Age 3 and up. We are connected by love.
- Reactions by Allison Salloum. Intended to help children and youth understand grief and how trauma affects them physically and emotionally.
- My Pet Died: Let’s Make a Book About It by Rachel Biale.
- Liplap’s Wish by Jonathan London and Sylvia Long. A book about love, loss and remembrance that both comforts and inspired us to put glow in the dark stars on our ceiling, to give to our friends that were moving and for a child to place somewhere meaningful to him in the cottage so he’ll always be represented there after his graduation from care.
- Grandpa Tree by Mike Donahue. The life cycle of a tree.
- Why Did You Die? Activities to Help Children Cope with Grief and Loss by Ellen Goldring and Erika Leeuwenburgh. There is a section for adults that describes a child’s grief process.
- Acorn Alone by Michael Robert McClure. Encourages one to overcome obstacles and become co-creators in the earth. A childlike allegory for the cycles of life and death.
- Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children by Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen.
- What On Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? by Trevor Romain. For children ages 5-10.
- I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand: A Child’s Guide to Grief and Loss by Pat Palmer.
- When Someone Special Dies by Marge Heegaard.
- When Something Terrible Happens by Marge Heegaard.
- When Someone Has a Very Serious Illness by Marge Heegaard.
- Molly’s Rosebush by Janice Cohn. A story about miscarriage for mothers and their children ages 4-7.
- Empty Place: Child’s Guide Through Grief by Roberta Temes. A story about the loss of a sibling.
- Forever in My Heart: A Story to Help Children Participate in Life as a Parent Dies by Jennifer Levine.
- Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child by Rabbi Earl A. Grollman
- When the Wind Stops by Charlotte Zolotow. A cycle of life story that tells about how life goes on.
- Help Me Say Goodbye by Janis Silverman. Activities for helping children cope when a special person dies.
- Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss by Michaelene Mundy.
- Muddles, Puddles and Sunshine: Your Activity Book to Help When Someone Has Died by Diana Crossley. Activities and exercises accompanied by friendly character.
Homework Help
- How to Do Homework Without Throwing Up by Trevor Romain. Cartoons and text that provide helpful homework tips and insights for ages 9-12.
- The Study Skills Handbook by Judith Dodge. Teaches children strategies they need to be effective and organized learners, ages 9-12.
- The Berenstain Bears and the Homework Hassle by Stan and Jan Berenstain
- Peanut Butter and Homework Sandwiches by Lisa Cook
- The Croc Ate My Homework by Stephan Pastis
- Annie’s Plan: Taking Charge of Schoolwork and Homework by Jeanne Kraus
- Ready, Freddy! #3: Homework Hassles by Abby Klein
- 13 Steps to Better Grades and More Time for Fun by Sharon Hernes Silverman.
Journaling
- Homemade Books to Help Kids Cope, by Robert Ziegler, M.D.
- The Creative Journal for Kids by Lucia Capacchione.
- All About Me: A Keepsake Journal for Kids by Linda Kranz.
- The Absolutely True, Positively Awesome Book About…Me!!! by Me!!! Ages 6-10.
- My Own Thoughts and Feelings (for Girls) or (For Boys) by Wendy Deaton. Both books include guides for the adult/therapist and explore solving problems.
Learning Differences and Differently Abled
- Reach for the Moon by 14 year old Samantha Abeel. This book is recommended for ages 6 and up.
- It Isn’t Fair: Siblings of Children With Disabilities by Harwell.
- The Don’t Give Up Kid by Jeanne Gehret. This book gives children, ages 5-10, with reading problems and learning disabilities a clear understanding of their difficulties and the necessary courage to learn to live with them.
- Many Ways to Learn: Young People’s Guide to Learning Disabilities by Judith Stern and Uzi Ben’Ami. This book is recommended for children ages 8-13.
- All Kinds of Minds: A Student’s Book About Learning Abilities and Learning Disorders by Mel Levine.
- My Name is Brain/Brian by Jeanne Betancourt. A boy struggles to hide his LD from friends. This book is recommended for children ages 9-12.
- Survival Guide for Kids with LD: Learning Differences by Gary Fisher.
- The Gifted Kids’ Survival Guide for Ages 10 and Under by Judy Galbraith
- Arithmetricks by Edward Julius. Math tricks to make arithmetic easier and more fun.
- The Kid’s Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D. This book is full of thought provoking questions with no right or wrong answers. The format invites children to respond creatively and based on how they feel.
- The Sibling Slam Book: What It’s Really Like to Have a Brother or Sister with Special Needs by Meyer and Gallagher.
- What Would It Be Like?”¦.1001 Anytime Questions for Any Size Answers by Chris Cavert And Friends. Questions that all start with “What would it be like?” to initiate thoughtful, creative conversations.
- How to Have Intelligent Creative Conversations With Your Kids by Jane Healy, Ph.D. This is another Creative Therapies favorite.
- Look-Alikes by Joan Steiner. Find 1000 hidden everyday objects.
- When Learning is Tough: Kids Talk About Learning Disabilities by Cynthia Roby.
Money
- The Totally Awesome Money Book for Kids and Their Parents by Adriane G. Berg and her 11 year-old son Arthur Berg Bochner answers questions about the meaning of money and how to make, spend, save and invest it.
- A Book of Responsibilities by Marjorie Nelsen. Ten child-centered categories illustrated in a clever flip book that children themselves turn to the “I did it” pocket when finished. Ages 3-7.
- The Trouble with Money by Stan and Jan Berenstain.
- Little Critter: Just Saving My Money by Mercer Mayer. (My First I Can Read).
Moving
- “Why Do We Have to Move?” by Cynthia MacGregor. Help your child adjust with love and illustrations.
- We Are Moving from the ‘Let’s Make a Book Series’. A guided scrap book-making to help friends and families cope with common childhood issues such as moving.
- Little Critter: We Are Moving by Mercer Mayer
- The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day by Stan and Jan Berenstain
- Big Ernie’s New Home: A Story for Young Children Who Are Moving by Teresa Martin
- Boomer’s Big Day by Constance McGeorge.
Perfectionism
- Mistakes that Worked for ages 9-12.
- Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good? By Miriam Adderholdt-Elliott for ages 11-13.
- Nobody is Perfik by Bernard Waber. A young boy finally realizes through trial and error that nobody is “perfik.” It’s okay not to be perfect and no one is.
- What to Do When Good Enough Isn’t Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism: A Guide for Kids by Thomas Greenspon
- Nobody’s Perfect: A Story for Children About Perfectionism by Ellen Burns.
- The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes by Mark Pett.
- Too Perfect by Trudy Ludwig
- Ish by Peter Reynolds. Thinking ishly is far more wonderful than getting it right.
Pro-Social Learning
- Cookies : Bite Size Life Lessons by Amy Krause Rosenthal. Everyone knows cookies taste good, but these cookies also have something good to say. Open this delectable book to any page and you will find out something about life through cookies words like fair and unfair, optimistic and pessimistic are defined.
- Best Me I Can Be Series by Julia Cook includes books such as: Sorry I Forgot to Ask; Thanks for the Feedback; I Don’t Like the Sound of No; Making Friends Is an Art!; Personal Space Camp; I Just Want to Do it My Way; Teamwork Isn’t My Thing.
- The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. A story about giving so much you lose yourself.
- How to Say No and Keep Your Friends and When to Say Yes and Keep Your Friends by Sharon Scott.
- When Jane-Marie Told my Secret by Wilner-Pardo. Ages 6-12.
- Original Warm and Fuzzy Tale by Steiner
- George Washington and the Cherry Tree by Jason Eliot. This story was found to be more effective in having children tell the truth because the parent addresses how proud they are when the child is honest.
- Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud about seeing the effects of actions and words.
- Why? by Nikolai Popov. A picture book about the absurdity of aggression and its inevitable consequences.
- Learning to Get Along Series by Cheri Meiners. Talk and Work It Out, Know and Follow Rules and Join In and Play.
- Positively Mother Goose by Diane Loomans. Familiar rhymes with a delightful, positive, affirming twist. Ages 3-7.
- The Pushcart War by Jean Merrill. A satire on a garbage strike in NYC and how negativity began to spread, ages 8 and up.
- Me First by Helen Lester. Pinkerton Pig is pushy and greedy but overcomes his selfishness when he learns that being first isn’t always the best for ages 3-5.
- Making Friends by Petty and Firmin. Ages 3-8.
- Kids’ Random Acts of Kindness by The Editors of Conari Press.
- The Kid’s Guide to Service Projects by Barbara Lewis.
- Somebody Loves You, Mr. Hatch by Eileen Spinelli. A story about the power of somebody loving you.
- What Would It Be Like”¦1001 anytime questions for any size answers by Chris Cavert & Friends. A pocketbook of questions for a myriad of situations, bound to stir up some lively thinking, discussion and debate.
- Because Brian Hugged His Mother by David Rice. A simple act of kindness goes further than you think.
- What Do You Stand For? Kid’s Guide to Building Character by Barbara Lewis.
- The Cooperation Workbook by Tracy Zimmerman.
- Stellaluna by Janell Cannon. We are different and alike.
- Chubbo’s Pool by Betsy Lewin. On Sharing.
- Chicken Soup for Little Souls: The Best Night Out With Dad by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.
- Franklin Fibs by Bourgeois and Clark.
- Arnie and the Stolen Markers by Nancy Carlson.
- Making Friends is an Art! by Julia Cook. To have a friend you have to be a friend
- We Can Get Along: A Child’s Book of Choices by Lauren Murphy. This book teaches children 3-8 essential conflict resolution and peacemaking skills.
- Ricky Sticky Fingers by Julia Cook. Teaches that stealing is wrong and offers a strategy to curb the desire to steal!.
- Liar, Liar Pants on Fire! by Miriam Cohen. A book about a first grader, new to school, who lies to impress his classmates, ages 3-7.
- A Big, Fat Enormous Lie by Marjorie Sharmat Weinman. A little boy learns that lies turn into monsters and telling the truth is the only way to make them disappear, ages 3-8.
- Don’t Tell a Whopper on Fridays! The Children’s Truth-Control Book by Adolph Moser. A child-friendly book that discusses the problems of lying and the importance of telling the truth, ages 7-11.
- The Empty Pot by Demi. A popular story at CREATIVE THERAPIES about honesty.
- Gold Coin by Alma Flor Ada. A thief goes to extreme lengths to rob a traveling healer woman of a gold coin and is reformed during his attempts to follow her, for ages 5-10.
- We’re in Big Trouble, Blackboard Bear by Martha Alexander. Anthony’s friends accuse Bear of stealing, he admits his guilt and replaces the losses, for ages 4-8.
- It Wasn’t Me! by Udo Weigelt. Raven is accused of taking Ferret’s raspberry pile. The case seems sealed when evidence shows up clearing him of the crime for ages 6-9.
- Elbert’s Bad Word by Audrey Wood. Young Elbert, after shocking his parents and guests by using a bad work, learns some acceptable substitutes from a helpful wizard, for ages 4-8.
- The Berenstain Bears and the Big Blooper by Stan and Jan Berenstain. The cubs hear a new word and learn that nobody, not even adults should use it, ages 4-8.
- Little Daisy and the Swearing Class by Ralph Bouma. Expounds on the negative effects of swearing. Ages 9-12.
- Armadillo Tattletale by Helen Ketteman. Minding your own business can be tough sometimes, especially if your oversize ears are just the right size for eavesdropping and telling distorted tales. The text conveys a great message: it’s important to respect the privacy of others and understand that gossip can hurt, for ages 3-7.
- The First Forest by John Gile. A story reminding us that greed and selfishness are harmful to others and mostly ourselves.
- The Way It Happened by Deborah Zemke. Here is the classic event of how rumors can start and blow way out of proportion if no one listens for ages 6-9.
- The Children’s Problem Solving Series: My Name is Not Dummy; I Want It; I Want to Play; I’m Lost; Mommy, Don’t Go; and I Can’t Wait. Teaches the basics of problem solving and considers alternative solutions. The children’s answers dictate the outcome of each story.
- Manners by Aliki. An assortment of manners cleverly illustrated for ages 4-9.
- How I Learned to be Considerate of Others by Lawrence Shapiro. A story/workbook.
- Social Smarts: Modern Manners for Today’s Kids by Elizabeth James. Offers advice to children on how to handle all types of social situations for ages 8-11.
- Netiquette by Virginia Shea. Do’s and don’ts guide for on-line manners. Highly recommended for ages 12-15.
- All That You Are by Woodleigh Marx Hubbard. A celebration of the promise and goodness inside each of us.
- Heartprints by P.K. Hallinan. Heartprints are impressions left behind by deliberate acts of kindness.
- Milo and the Magical Stones by Marcus Pfister. Halfway through the story the book splits into two sections and involves children in the decision making process, and hence the consequences of decisions.
- Bartholomew the Bossy by Marjorie Weinman Sharmat, Franklin is Bossy by Paulette Boourgeois and Little Miss Bossy by Roger Hargreaves. Ages 3-7.
- How to Be a Friend by Laurie and Marc Brown. A guide to making friends and keeping them. Ages 4-7.
- The Care and Keeping of Friends by the American Girl Library. Tips, quizzes and activities to help girls 7-10.
- Cap It Off with a Smile: A Guide for Making and Keeping Friends by Robin Inwald. Simple, practical ideas about friendship making for young children ages 3-5.
- How to Lose All Your Friends by Nancy Carlson. A funny tale that offers advice on the kinds of things to do if you don’t want to have any friends, ages 5-9..
- Make Someone Smile and 40 More Ways to Be a Peaceful Person by Judy Lalli.
- Stand in My Shoes: Kids Learning About Empathy by Bob Sornson, Ph.D. Teached the value of noticing how other people feel.
- What Do You Think? A Kid’s Guide to Dealing with Daily Dilemmas by Linda Schwartz. Helps children develop the skills they need to resolve conflicts and make positive decisions at school, home, and within themselves. Helps children ages 8-12 consider issues from more than one perspective and to clarify their thinking before real-life conflicts arise.
- What Would You Do? A Kid’s Guide to Tricky and Sticky Situations by Linda Schwartz. A guide that prepares children ages 8-12 to handle unexpected, puzzling and frightening situations at home, school, or out on their own.
- What Do You Stand For? A Kid’s Guide to Building Character by Barbara Lewis.
- Personal Space Camp by Julia Cook. Starting with space and then traveling to learn about personal space right here on earth and how to respect another’s physical boundaries.
- A Bad Case of Tattle Tongue and My Mouth is a Volcano (about managing interrupting) by Julia Cook
- The Serendipity Series created by Stephen Cosgrove and Robin James. Each story has a moral stated on the front of the small paperback book.
Relaxation
- Earthlight, Innerspace: The Art of Inner Learning, Moonbeam, Starbright, and Sunshine by Maureen Garth.
A series of meditation books to help children sleep peacefully, free of nightmares and fears, awaken creativity, develop concentration, learn to quiet themselves, discover inner strength. - A Boy and a Bear: The Children’s Relaxation Book by Lori Lite.
- Yoga for Children by Mary Steward and Kathy Phillip. Simple movements and games parents and children can do together to help grow strong and flexible.
- Imaginations: Fun Relaxation Stories and Meditations for Kids by Carolyn Clarke.
- Bubble Riding: A Relaxation Story designed to teach children visualization techniques by Lori Lite
- Sea Otter Cove: Introducing Relaxation Breathing to Lower Anxiety, Decrease Stress and Control Anger by Lori Lite.
- Breathe, Chill: A Handy Book of Games and Techniques Introducing Breathing, Meditation and Relaxation to Kids by Lisa Roberts.
- 101 Relaxation Games for Children: Finding a Little Peace and Quiet In Between by Allison Barti and Klaus Puth.
- Cool Cats, Calm Kids: Relaxation and Stress Management for Young People by Mary Williams and Dianne O’Quinn Burke.
Self-Esteem Building
- The Cat at the Door and Other Stories to Live By: Affirmations for Children by Anne Mather and Louise Weldon.
A book of one page stories followed by an affirmation that make for positive bedtime conversation. - Building Self-Esteem Through the Museum of 25 Original Projects that Explore and Celebrate the Self by Linda Zack, M.Ed.
- Just Because I Am: A Children’s Book of Affirmation by Lauren Murphy Payne, M.S.W. This book invites children ages 3-8 to love, accept and respect themselves.
- Self-Esteem: What Does It Mean? A Self-Esteem for Kids; A Child’s Guide to Understanding and Building Confidence by Jan Marie Mueller.
- Stick Up for Yourself: Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem by Gershen Kaufman, Lev Raphael and Pamela Espeland. Another fine favorite at Creative Therapies.
- My Self- Esteem: Young Person’s Guide to Developing Self-Esteem by Gretchen Douthit. A book from the ‘Inside Out Workbook’ Series.
- The Building Blocks of Self-Esteem Activity Book: A Skill Oriented Approach to Teaching Self-Worth by Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.
- Kids are Funny. A book of jokes sent by kids to the Rosie O’Donnell Show.
- Being Me: A Kid’s Guide to Boosting Confidence and Self-Esteem by Wendy Moss
- Self-Esteem for Kids-100 Ways to Improve Self Esteem for Children by Mary Graham
- Chicken Soup for the Soul: Think Positive for Kids: 101 Stories about Good Decisions, Self-Esteem and Positive Thinking by Keven Sorbo and Amy Newmark. Inspirational stries of self-esteem, tolerance, values and inner strength.
- I Believe in Me: A Book of Affirmations by Connie Bowen.
- I’m Gonna Like Me: Letting Off a Little Self-Esteem by Jamie Lee Curtis
- Positively Mother Goose by Diane Loomans, Julia Loomans and Karen Kolberg. A new version of traditional rhymes, promoting values of self-esteem, conflict resolution, lifelong learning and innovative thinking.
- The Paper Bag Princess by Robert Munsch. An empowering story for girls that should be on every bookshelf.
Dr. T has a page from this book framed, on the wall, in one of her therapy rooms. - A Bad Case of the Stripes by David Shannon. A silly story with a serious underlying message- be true to you!
- Being the Best Me Series: Bounce Back! A Book About Self-Esteem and Feel Confident! A Book About Self-Esteem by Cheri Meiners and Elizabeth Allen.
- Elmer by David McKee. A celebration of individuality.
- I Love Me: Self-Esteem in Seven Easy Steps by Elisha and Elyssa.
- What You Can See You Can Be! by David A. Anderson.
- What I Like About Me! by Allia Zobel Nolan.
- Happy to be Me!: A Kid Book about Self-Esteem by Adams, Butch and Alley.
- I’m Gonna Like Me: Letting Off a Little Self-Esteem by Jamie Lee Curtis and Laura Cornell. A boy and a girl show that the key to feeling good is liking yourself because you are you.
- Stick Up for Yourself! Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem by Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D. and Lev Raphael, Ph.D. At Creative Therapies, every child in our ages nine and up social skills groups receives a copy of this book.
- The Boy Who Dreamed of an Acorn by Leigh Casler. Recognizing that we are all given different gifts.
- Being Me: A Kid’s Guide to Boosting Confidence and Self-Esteem by Wendy Moss.
- Don’t Feed the Monster on Tuesdays by Melton and Moser.
- When I Grow Up I Want to be Me by Sandra Magsmen. A beautifully illustrated, interactive book about being happy and capable.
- Positive Self-Talk for Children: Teaching Self-Esteem Through Affirmations, by Douglas Bloch.
Sexuality
- What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls by Lynda Madaras. A growing up guide for parents and daughters, ages 9-15, laced with anecdotes, real life experiences and illustrations. The book covers body’s changing size and shape, breasts, the reproductive organs, the menstrual cycle, pubic hair, puberty in boys and much more. The book is very helpful for mothers looking for information and the language to talk with their daughters.
- What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras. A growing up guide for parents and sons ages 9-15 and laced with anecdotes, real life experiences and illustrations. The book covers the body’s changing size and shape, the growth spurt, reproductive organs, perspiration, pimples, voice changes, beards, puberty in girls and much more. The book is very helpful for mothers and fathers looking for information and the language to talk with their sons.
- My Body, Myself for Girls by Lynda Madaras. The companion workbook to the “What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls.” Over 100 quizzes, checklists and journal pages especially for pre-teens.
- The Period Book: Everything You Don’t Want to Ask (But Need to Know) by Karen Graville and her daughter Jennifer. A practical book that answers questions such as what is a period and what it feels like, how to chose pads and tampons and how to talk to your parents about it.
- The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls from the American Girl Library.
- Where Do Babies Come From? For Boys Ages 7-9 and Parents and Where Do Babies Come From? For Girls Ages 7-9 and Parents by Ruth Hummel and Janet McDonnell for Christian Families.
Siblings/Sibling Rivalry
- Every Kid’s Guide to Handling Fights with Brothers and Sisters by Joy Berry. Ten reasons why they fight, why it is harmful and four steps to avoiding fights.
- One Frog Too Many by Mercer Meyer and Marianna Meyer. This book discusses jealousy over a new sibling.
- The Pain and the Great One by Judy Blume. “The Great One” thinks her younger brother is a messy slowpoke. “The Pain,” thinks his older sister is a bossy know-it-all. They both think the other is loved more.
- I Love You the Purplest by Barbara Joosse. A mother’s answer to her children’s rivalry to be her favorite.
- Inner Active Book Exploring Jealousy by the Enchanted Family.
- Will There Be a Lap for Me? by Dorothy Corey.
- A Cat and a Dog by Claire Masurel and Bob Kolar. A cat and dog, in the same house, fight all the time until”¦
- On Mother’s Lap by Ann Herbert Scott. There’s always room on mother’s lap.
- Watch Out! Big Bro’s Coming by Jez Alborough.
- Siblings: You’re Stuck with Each Other, So Stick Together by Crist and Verdick.
- What About Me?: Twelve Ways to Get Your Parents’ Attention (Without Hitting Your Sister) by Eileen Kennedy-Moore. Offers positive choices for coping with jealousy and being left out. The book addresses how every child can learn to be kind, helpful and find creative ways to ask for loving attention. Ages 3-8.
- What to Expect When the New Baby Comes by Heidi Murkoff. This book will answer your child’s questions about new babies and will address some of the worries your child may have about sharing the house and your love.
- Oh Brother, Oh Sister by the American Girl Library. Includes strategies for dealing with siblings.
- I’m a Big Sister and I’m a Big Brother by Cole and Kightley.
- No Fighting, No Biting by Else Homelund Minarik. A much loved tale to help children find out why Roas and Willy are like two little alligators. Ages 4 to 8.
- The Berenstain Bears Get in a Fight by Stan and Jan Berenstain. Brother and sister Bear get into a sibling battle, and Mama Bear helps them work things out for ages 4-8.
- Bang, Bang, You’re Dead by Louise Fitzhugh. Two children battle for command of a hill, then work out their disagreement for ages 5-8.
- Superfudge by Judy Blume. A favorite among ages 8-12, about an older brother who must deal with his very annoying younger brother.
Toilet Learning
- Clouds and Clocks: A Story for Children Who Soil by Matther Galvin, M.D. A warm-hearted story that helps children understand the causes and cures for encopresis. An excellent aid for preparing and motivating children for treatment.
- Dry Days, Wet Nights by Maribeth Boetts. A picture book for reassuring children ages 4-6 that they will grow out of wetting their bed.
- Toilet Learning: The Picture Book Technique for Children and Parents by Alison Mack. It’s usefulness goes beyond toilet learning since it provides a model for how parents can guide and assist their young children in learning to govern their bodies with satisfaction and pleasure.
- Dry All Night by Alison Mach. Part one gives the information parents need to cope with bedwetting. Part two is for children who bed wet, to read and/or look at all by themselves.
- Sammy the Elephant and Mr. Camel by Joyce Mills.
- Everyone Poops by Taro Gomi. A picture book for ages two and up.
- It Hurts When I Poop! A Story for Children Who Are Scared to Use the Potty by Bennett.
- My Big Boy Undies by Karen Katz
- I Don’t Want to Go to the Toilet by Katz.
Trauma Recovery
- When Something Terrible Happens by Marge Heegard. An interactive workbook for dealing with grief and fear.
- Sailing Through the Storm by Edie Julik. Also an interactive workbook aimed at healing.
- No More Hurt: A Child’s Workbook about Recovering from Abuse by Deaton and Johnsomn.
- A Terrible Thing Happened by Margaret Holmes
- A Brighter Tomorrow: A Workbook to Help Kids Cope with Traumatic Events by Erainna Winnett
- Trauma: Good Answers to Tough Questions by Berry and Bartholomew.
- In My Corner on the Moon: A Story for Kids Who Experienced Trauma by Rashkin-Shoot. Ages 10-14. Story with interactive questions.
- You Are Not Alone by William Steele. For children ages 6-12.
- Brave Bart: A Story for Traumatized and Grieving Children by Caroline Sheppard, ACSW.
- Verdi by Janell Cannon especially for children traumatized by being tied down during a hospital procedure.
You Are Loved
- Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBratney.
- I Love You, Little One by Nancy Tafuri.
- I Love You Stinky Face by Lisa McCourt.
- If I found a Wistful Unicorn by Ann Ashford.
- No Matter What by Debi Gliori. A fox named ‘Small’ runs the gamut of “testing behavior” while his parent, ‘Large’ stays calm and acts with kindness to eventually assure Small that, no matter what, he (or “she,” if you prefer) will still be loved.
- I Love You As Much…by Laura Krauss Melmed.
- A You’re Adorable by Martha Alexander. A popular song from the 1940’s.
- Just In Case You Ever Wonder by Max Lucado.
- Owly by Mike Thaler. A tender bedtime story about the endless love between a parent and child.
- The Gift by Gabriela Keselman. A ‘feel good’ story for adult and child about the simplest, yet most special gift any parent can give.
- On the Night You were Born by Nancy Tillman. A celebration of the night your child was born and how he/she brought wonder and magic to the world.
- Throw Your Tooth on the Roof: Tooth Traditions from Around the World by Selby Beeler. When your daughter loses her first tooth, give her this book and box to collect her teeth in and a bracelet to put charms on. Then with each tooth that comes out give her another charm that somehow represents that time in her life. By the change of teeth she will have a keepsake treasure from her childhood.
- The Three Questions based on a story by Leon Tolstoy by Jon J. Muth. Questions for self-reflection.
- The Secret Remedy Too: A Story of Comfort and Love by Karin Cates. Seven reminders to inspire the mind and charm the heart when feeling lonely, homesick or a little of each. I sent it to one of my clients who was away at summer camp along with some goodies to support the ideas within.